When the honeymoon is over, and the real dance begins.
The dance of the tango is from the song Takes Two to Tango, written and composed in 1952 by Al Hoffman and Dick Manning. The dance itself is defined and described in several ways. Our favorite is by Velleda C Ceccoli Ph.D., a dance critic, and a regular contributor to the online magazine, Psychology Tomorrow. She describes the tango as "a feeling expressed as a dance." It is a beautiful metaphor to describe what happens during the attraction, selection, and romantic stage of love and marriage. And, the dance of the tangle is a metaphor that aptly describes a feeling that is a dance for couples when the honeymoon is over, with the reality of differences revealed. It takes two for both.
Because both dances require participation and cooperation!
The tango is the more enjoyable dance because, during the attraction, selection, and romantic stage, both partners flood with positive feelings about each other because of the chemicals that activate in the most primitive part of the brain. The need of which is to support the couple to bond (historically, for procreation). However, in modern times, we believe the purpose of this stage is for each partner to bond with someone to grow and develop into a better version of themselves. That is why the "tango stage" ends, and the "tangle stage" begins. Additionally, personal growth within love and marriage is a personal decision and quest. And, while it is ideal for both partners to interrupt and change the dance of the tangle, one partner can do it alone.
Each partner makes their own independent decision about if they want to continue to participate in the tangle. Remember this: it only takes one partner to say, "No."
Here are three ways to say no to the tangle dance of miscommunication:
Here are three ways to say yes to untangle the dance of miscommunication:
Now that you now know three ways to say no to the tangle of miscommunication and "yes" to beginning the process to untangle miscommunication, it's time for your next success step.
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